Parenting

7 Positive Parenting Affirmations to Commit to Memory

7 Positive Parenting Affirmations to Commit to Memory
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Positive affirmations have become more popular throughout the past few years, and for a good reason. Whether you’re trying to ward off stress, be more productive or simply feel a bit happier throughout your daily life, talking kindly to yourself can help you harness a brand new attitude. Positive affirmations have been proven to reduce stress and genuinely change peoples’ outlook on life, and you can apply positive affirmations to anything. You can even use them to become a better parent.

From self-assurance in your skills to reminding yourself of the beauty all around you, positive parenting affirmations can truly improve your life and experience as a parent. While you very well might know a few of these things already, a positive reminder can actually do much more than you might expect. By speaking positive things to yourself as you go about your parenting life, you can become more mindful of them and use them to your advantage as you guide your kids to learn, grow and experience a more positive world.

  1. I Have Everything I Need to Be a Good Parent Within Me

Sometimes, it can be easy to get down on yourself and feel like you’re not qualified to parent the way your kids deserve. Arbitrary things can seem important and you can sometimes lose sight of what matters — no matter how centered you are. By reminding yourself that the love, care and compassion you offer your kids is all you need to be the parent they deserve, you can accomplish your goals with confidence and a bit more ease.

  1. Today Is Going to Be a Good Day

This affirmation can apply to a variety of situations, from recovery to the occasional stressful week to the days that look sunny and bright ahead. You and your kids alike can take this affirmation to heart and even make a routine out of saying it to one another. By saying that each day is going to be a good day, you can encourage yourself to look on the bright side. 

  1. My Children Don’t Expect Perfection

It can be easy to get caught up in wanting things to be perfect — so much so that you can forget what matters to your kids and truly makes them happy. Perfection often does a great job of impressing other parents or satisfying your own high standards, but it’s important not to get too caught up in the impossible. Nobody is perfect, and your kids won’t ever expect you to be. Loving them is absolutely enough.

  1. I Am Enough

Speaking of being enough, reminding yourself that you are enough can be powerful on its own. This can work on a multitude of levels — you are enough as a parent, as a person, as a partner and as every other role you play in your life. You are deserving and worthy of love, and letting yourself hear that each day can make your down days a bit better and your good days even more amazing.

  1. My Kids Can Teach Me Things, Too

Guiding your kids through life can feel like a big responsibility at times, especially when they get in those phases where their favorite thing to do is ask questions. Not having all the answers all the time can feel scary and overwhelming, but nobody said that you need to be a guru of life who knows everything. In fact, your kids can teach you all kinds of things about life, from living in the moment to selfless acts of love. Reminding yourself that you don’t always have to be the teacher can open you up to all kinds of lessons and tune you in to the wise things that often come straight from the mouths of babes.

  1. I Am Creating an Environment of Love

Reminding yourself that you are creating an environment of love for your children can work on so many levels. On the days where your temper feels a bit short, it can be a great way to center yourself and remind you of your intentions for your family. On the other hand, it can also be a great reminder that your love is what works to create all the good times and happy memories your children experience.

  1. I Deserve Self Care

Parenting is a selfless job, but caring for yourself can’t be overlooked all the time. Whether you’re stressed and in need of some alone time or you have a regular self care routine but still feel internalized guilt over prioritizing your needs, it’s important to remind yourself that you need to take some time for you. As a parent, you are the foundation — or half of the foundation — of your household. When you care for yourself, it keeps everything together. Even if your self care

is just a few moments of mindfulness or a walk in the park, remembering that you deserve it can make a huge difference.

Positive Affirmations Have Power

When you remember positive affirmations and keep them in your life, they will begin to shape the way you think. No matter which affirmation holds the most power for you, leaning into that positivity can create real change in your life. Do you have a favorite positive affirmation?

Parenting

4 Tips for Mothers Considering Adoption

4 Tips for Mothers Considering Adoption
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Mothers who are considering adoption from either side of the equation have a lot of considerations to make. The process can be arduous but there is no shortage of tips and pointers that are able to help. No expectant mother who is considering adoption in Iowa is going to be making the decision without taking the time to think about it long and hard first.

Whether the mother is looking to adopt a child of their own or place a child up for adoption, there are a number of questions that need to be answered. By taking the time to read on and learn more about the following tips, the adoption process is simplified. No one is expected to be an expert right away so be sure to take a closer look at this handy guide…

1. Embrace The Learning Process

There is a wide range of valuable resources when it comes time to learn more about the adoption process. While a mother who would like to learn more can head to all kinds of official websites for studying purposes, you can also take the time to speak with friends and loved ones about the process.

The learning process unfolds in all sorts of different ways, whether they are formal or informal. Books, magazines, and chats with friends can all serve as highly valuable resources in these instances. There’s no such thing as being “too” informed.

2. Speak To Professionals In The Region

Informational meetings are another great resource for those who are looking to learn more about adoption. Public and private agencies can provide an expectant mother with any info that will make the experience less stressful. Anxiety typically stems from a lack of knowledge, so speaking to professionals is an absolute must.

Handouts and brochures provide mothers with valuable studying material. Social workers and attorneys are more than happy to answer any questions that a mother may have, too. Take the time to screen any attorney before a consultation takes place for best results. References are very important in these instances.

3. Do Some Serious Soul Searching

This is not a decision that should be made without taking the time to do some soul searching. A mother who is thinking about placing a child up for adoption (or adopting a child of their own) cannot make this choice lightly. It’s not something that can be reversed once the process has begun. Someone who is looking to adopt may need to decide if they can handle a special needs child or a sibling group.

These mothers also have to decide between public agency adoption or private agency adoption. Independent nonagency adoptions are also available. It is up to each parent to decide which course of action is better for them. Soul searching is the best way to zero in on an adoption plan that works best for all parties involved.

4. Manage Expectations

The adoption process can be lengthy, regardless of which side of the process the parent is on. That’s why it is important to manage expectations accordingly. No one should be expecting the process to be over with quickly and any parent who does is setting themselves up to be let down. Parents must also make time to care for themselves while the process is unfolding.

It is easy to lose sight of the importance of self-care at times like these. Expectant mothers and mothers to be will both benefit from a support group or any form of supportive therapy. Speaking to other people who are (or have been) in the same situation is hugely beneficial. Throwing oneself into the process may seem like the best course of action but it will only lead to more stress over the long haul.

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The Goodtimer is the Good Behavior Reward Tool for Families

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The Goodtimer is the Good Behavior Reward Tool for Families

It is so simple and genius, the Goodtimer is a good/bad behavior tool for ages 3-10. Everything you need is in the kit and it interactively hands out a good behavior reward system via tokens. I am happy to share more with you as you consider gifts for families who especially are home together during COVID and may need a behavior tool like this.

Step one is to find a central location for your Goodtimer and plug it in then gather the kids to read the included book. It tells the story of this timing tool and its maker and how to make him work for your family.

As you read the book you come to pages you will complete – a page to write down rules for your home (not hit sibling, pick up toys after play, remember to brush teeth, etc..) and then a sheet to divvy up rewards (eg, 2 token = extra TV time…). Load your tokens into the Goodtimer and you are ready to promote and earn a good behavior reward.

When you first turn on Goodtimer (the quick start guide helps explain all of the buttons/features) it will give a cute (child) voice hello and LED green light #1 illuminates like my photo below in this post. You will choose a level 1-10 (1 is an 8 hour, 10 is 12 hours) and that is a time that a token can be released unless it spent a lot of time upside down!

What does it mean to be upside down? This means that as long as they are behaving your Goodtimer is up and on. If they break a rule or misbehave you would ask them to go turn Goodtimer upside down. This means it is not counting down towards a token at the point. To get the timer back up and running they should correct their behavior quickly so they can go turn Goodtimer right side up again and start earning again. Tokens are stored in the attachd tower and cannot be retrieved until Goodtimer releases one based on the level set.

Keeping track of progress along the way each day is easy. Goodtimer has the green LED (like above) and the more lights around the unit (360 degrees around until fully lit) releases a token. Also, as time moves on with good behavior and it adds more light, Goodtimer also gives an encouraging voice command – it will encourage your child to keep up the good behavior and that they have lit Goodtimer up a bit more and are closer to a token release.

What is really fun is that they will just be going about their day and when having a good day or in a good moment they will hear Goodtimer talk to them. It gives subtle reminders throughout the day that Goodtimer is “counting their good moments” and that they are still on track for a token.

Goodtimer is currently on sale! Hurry! The original retail price is $129.95 and if you press the orange triangle in the upper left corner of their website to sign up for emails you will save 25%. They also do flash sales so make sure you follow their FB page and you will see flash alerts! As I write this they are offering it at $48!! Keep your eye open and sign up for emails and follow them because every home needs a Goodtimer! Visit Goodtimer to order today!