Category: Parenting

Having a newborn in the house is possibly the most all consuming thing anyone will ever deal with. When you’re a new parent and have a wriggly, hungry baby crying in your arms, it’s impossible to do anything other than pay attention to them! 

But as time goes on, the need to still live an adult life starts to creep back in. The house is a state, you’ve only got so much time left on parental leave, and it’s been at least 2 weeks since you last texted your best friend. 

All in all, you can end up feeling pretty guilty about not being able to stay on top of these needs as well. 

But your baby will still come first; forever and always. And that isn’t actually a problem, no matter who might be getting on at you to finally give those dishes in the sink a wash! 

Focusing on your newborn is the best thing to do right now. And when it feels like that is getting hard, there are things you can do to ease the pressure. We’ve recommended a few of the best below. 

Let Non-Baby Tasks Fall to the Bottom of the List

It’s OK not to have a perfectly clean house, and to be overdue to get the laundry done. Really, it is! You’ve got a newborn to take care of, and that takes priority over most other things in life. 

People underestimate all the time just how much effort it is to look after a baby. It’s a never-ending job that just evolves as time goes on and your child starts to grow. 

That’s something you may have to accept as well. Your home may never be the kind of spick and span it used to be until your child is well into their teen years. 

And stop rushing yourself. It takes time to adjust to seeing to your newborn AND being able to throw away the remains of that microwave ready meal, wash up, and put everything away.

It’s OK if you haven’t quite got the routine down to a point where you can whip around the house with the baby in a papoose yet!

Get the Right Kind of Support

If someone wants to come over to see you and the baby, feel free to let them come over! If you’ve got the energy to sit up and have a coffee with a loved one, you’re well within your rights to do so. 

However, if someone is badgering you to come over and you’re really not up to, tell them the reason why. Let them know what’s getting to you, and why you’re feeling so snowed under. 

You’ll be surprised just how much help they offer in that moment. And when they do, take it.  

Don’t say that it’s fine. Don’t say that you just need a little more time. Accept the help, let them come round, and be OK to sit there with your baby while they do some tidying or run an errand for you. 

That’ll be a weight off when it comes to focusing on your newborn, and nothing went wrong when you asked for help either! 

Don’t Face Sleeping Worries Alone

Newborns are asleep most of the time. When your child is only a week or two old, they may only be awake for a maximum of 30 minutes. And even by the time they’re 3-4 months old, that wake period may have only grown by another 30 minutes. 

That means a lot of sleeping worries can crop up. Your baby is asleep nearly all the time, only really waking to feed or when disturbed. But while that sounds like a non-issue, even when babies are asleep, they’re rarely quiet or still! 

So a few weeks in, you’re probably a bit all over the place. You’re researching 24/7 to double check if what your baby does in their sleep is normal. 

You’re constantly checking if they’re breathing. You’re on the phone to the doctor as you’re concerned about baby grunting sleep problems. 

You also start to worry that they’re not getting enough sleep, or maybe even too much. 

When you’re a new parent, those anxious thoughts are worse than ever! And this makes it impossible to focus on how well your baby’s doing. 

You’ve made them comfortable, and they’re clearly settling in well. You deserve some time to relax as they’re getting their much-needed sleep hours in! So be sure to share these worries over sleeping with others. Don’t keep them to yourself and try and work them out. 

Talk to your partner, your parents, your friends, and other newborn moms and dads. You’ll soon get a world of perspective on baby sleep behaviors and patterns, and that’ll make it much easier to refocus and pick up a bit more energy again. 

Focusing on Your Newborn Should Never Feel Impossible

If it does, it’s time to get yourself some help and support. Rely on friends and family to do a few more things for you, whether it’s loading the dishwasher, bringing over some pre-cooked meals, or running the vacuum around the house when you need 20 minutes to lie on the sofa. 

None of these things are too much to ask, and you’re not a bad parent for needing someone else to take care of these tasks. 

And that brings us to the second point: it’s also time to stop putting pressure on yourself to resume life as normal. 

You’ve got a newborn in the house, and that changes more than just your household size! You’re going to be knee-deep in baby clothes and toys, diapers and bottles, and plenty of clutter that wasn’t there before you had a baby! 

When you remove this kind of pressure, and reach out and accept a bit of help, you’ll find the newborn weeks far more fulfilling. Stop thinking about the ever expanding to-do list and let yourself focus on the baby in your arms!

Divorce can be extremely tough for children, potentially causing emotional and behavioral problems. In this guide, we will explore effective co-parenting strategies that can help both you and your ex-spouse ensure your children’s well-being, stability, and healthy development during this highly sensitive period.

Communication is Key

Maintaining open lines of communication with your co-parent is crucial for effective co-parenting. Share important updates about your children, including their health, school, and social life. Regularly discuss parenting decisions and remember to be respectful during these conversations. Never use your children as messengers, even when relaying positive information. 

Establish Clear Boundaries

Setting clear boundaries regarding parenting roles and responsibilities can help reduce confusion and help in decision-making. Define how you will manage schedules, rules, and expectations in both households. Always respect each other’s boundaries and never interfere in your co-parent’s time with your children. 

Prioritize the Child’s Needs

Always prioritize your children’s needs above your own conflicts. Make decisions that are in their best interests, even if some may be difficult. Focus on your children’s emotional and physical well-being and cultivate a supportive environment. Avoid talking negatively about the other parent, regardless of how you may feel towards them. Children need to feel connected with both parents, so be mindful of your words and tone when talking about your ex-partner. 

Manage Conflict Effectively

Disagreements are inevitable, but how you manage them can significantly impact your children. Aim to resolve conflicts calmly, respectfully, and avoid discussing disagreements in front of your kids. Respect each other’s parenting style and learn to find common ground. If you’re struggling with resolving conflicts, consider seeking professional help. 

Mediation and therapy can prove to be invaluable in navigating complex co-parenting situations. Ask your divorce lawyer about the best ways to manage conflicts and options you can take with your co-parent. Make sure you have a trusted divorce lawyer or a consistent client favorite divorce firm, Freed Marcroft, that can help you during these times. 

Foster Positive Relationships

Encourage your children to maintain a healthy relationship with both parents, including their extended family members. Avoid putting them in the middle of disputes and support their bond with each parent. However difficult, be supportive of your co-parent’s new partners. Keep your opinions about the other parent’s new relationship to yourself and never badmouth them in front of your children. Attend events together with your ex-spouse to show your unity and support for your young ones. 

Be Flexible and Consistent

Plans can change, so being adaptable when co-parenting is imperative. Be flexible whenever schedule changes, especially when it’s beyond anyone’s control. Ensure that your children clearly understand your reasons and be as transparent as possible. When it comes to disciplining your children, collaborate on rules and consequences with the other parent to provide structure and clarity. 

Endnote

Successful co-parenting is a collaborative and deliberate effort that requires patience, understanding, and a shared commitment to securing your children’s future. By implementing these valuable tips, you can develop a supportive, healthy, and positive environment that allows your children to thrive, even while living in separate households.

“Just take a deep breath,” they said. “You’ll be fine,” they said. 

Meanwhile, your toddler is pantsless, your inbox has 46 unread emails (from the school alone), and the dog is chewing what looks suspiciously like someone’s retainer. 

Deep breaths only go so far when you’re in the trenches of motherhood. If you’re looking for real-world ways to keep your cool and maybe even enjoy a moment of peace, you’re in the right place.

Learn to Let Go… of Fake Perfection

If Instagram had a warning label, it should read: May cause feelings of inadequacy and late-night craft breakdowns. Stop comparing yourself!

We all want to be the “get it together” mom, the one with color-coded calendars, Instagram-worthy lunches, and a house that doesn’t look like a toy bomb exploded. But here’s a wild idea: what if good enough was actually… enough?

Let the dishes sit. Order pizza. Let your kid wear cowboy boots and a tutu to the store. There’s peace in releasing perfection, and even a little humor in watching things unravel in the most spectacular ways. 

Keep Up with the Wild Things

Some moms are born angels. The rest of us are born wild raccoons in human form. If your days are a never-ending obstacle course of “don’t jump off that!” and “please stop licking the wall,” you’re not alone. The toddler energy is real and relentless.

Finding small ways to manage energetic little ones can make the difference between sanity and sobbing into your cereal. Encourage them to run wild in the backyard, set up indoor obstacle courses, or give them tasks that feel important (like “sorting” the laundry… again). The goal isn’t control; it’s strategic redirection. And if they’re exhausted at bedtime? That’s a parenting trophy right there.

Supplement Your Sanity (Responsibly, of Course)

When breathing exercises and hiding in the pantry just aren’t cutting it, many moms are looking for more holistic ways to feel like themselves again. Enter CBD oil. It’s become a popular option for moms who need a little help finding their calm without feeling zoned out.

Whether you’re navigating endless tantrums, juggling work-from-home chaos, or just trying not to scream at the 47th “Moooom!” of the hour, CBD can be a gentle support tool. 

It’s not a magic fix, but it might just take that edge off, making it a little easier to show up for yourself (and everyone else) with less tension in your shoulders and more patience in your voice.

Find Your Own (Tiny, Guilt-Free) Escape

Let’s be real: “me time” often sounds like a cruel joke. But even ten minutes of escape can do wonders. That might mean scrolling aimlessly on your phone in the bathroom with the door locked, watching a trashy TV show during naptime, or treating yourself to actual hot coffee before tackling the day’s mess.

Whatever it is, let it be yours. No guilt. No explanation. You are a person outside of motherhood, and that person deserves a moment of quiet, joy, or mindless fun. Take it. Regularly.

You’re Doing Fine, Mama

Look, you’re not failing. You’re just living in the beautiful chaos of motherhood, and some days are going to be messier than others. But if you laughed today, even if it was from pure exhaustion, you’re winning. So take the breath, hide in the bathroom if you must, and remember: your version of calm might not look like a spa day, but it’s real, valid, and totally deserved.